Say yes’! Discover the cultures of Indian, Japanese and Chinese weddings

Say yes’!  Discover the cultures of Indian, Japanese and Chinese weddings

For those interested in other cultures, one of the best ways to get to know them can be through demonstrations of faith and interpersonal relationships. THE marriagetherefore, it would be the perfect union of the two areas.

Even if they have the same intention anywhere in the world – the ideal of joining two people who love each other – the practice varies according to the location.

Did you know, for example, that while here in Brazil it is tradition to marry in white, this can be considered an offense in the Hindu religion? So get to know the different wedding styles in the northern hemisphere: China, at India and in Japan.

Indian wedding

While here the expectation is for an afternoon or evening of ceremony, in India the wedding is celebrated for days. The differences start now at, with three ceremonies even before the couple’s expected “yes”. Among them is the, popularly known as a ‘bachelor party’ for both. The couple gathers their mutual friends and wear the costumes and models for the party. The intention is to wish good things for the new phase of (still) engaged.

indian wedding

Then, it happens, which in translation means turmeric, as detailed in the portal. This is a spice used in the gastronomy of India and here it is of paramount importance for the couple. The two put a folder made of the material along the body, in a ceremony watered with music and dances. And don’t think that they are the only ones. For friends who have not yet married, turmeric is placed to wish luck in love.

Still talking about pre wedding, it is the third and last ceremony, and probably the most ‘famous’. This is where the bride and groom have their body ends painted with. Hands, feet, ankles, wrists and palms receive flowers, peacocks and elements that, in Indian culture, indicate luck.

In the great moment, contrary to what is popularly known in the West, the bride is the one who waits for the arrival of the beloved. Usually outdoors, the bride and groom are separated by a curtain until they mention the wedding mantras. And, as everything has been done in style, the “yes” hour could not be left out. With the right to exchange rings (apparently the only similarity) and necklaces, the party continues with a lot of music, dance and colors.

Chinese wedding

In China, a place full of culture, the ceremony has more symbolism. There, the tradition is to build a family sooner, because this indicates that they will be respected, just like their predecessors. Think fast: what color do you associate with the country? Because this is the one that prints the dress of Chinese brides.

The red in the country represents prosperity, fortune and good luck. Even the smallest details, like invitations, have red accents and the Xi symbol, which represents happiness. Still talking about the bride, it is common for her to protect herself with her closest friends before the ceremony. Unlike Brazil, it is the groom’s parents who organize the wedding.

chinese wedding

Days before, the groom’s family brings gifts to the beloved’s house. Then, the bride’s family members return the gesture, closer to the wedding date. And already thinking about the wedding nights, the tradition is that the couple buy a new bed – or trousseau – involving the color red.

On the night before the wedding, the bride and groom comb and untangle their hair. In Chinese culture, this symbolizes entry into adult life. Altogether, there are four brushed, each to bring good luck. While the first symbolizes the couple’s union from the beginning to the end of the relationship, the second brings harmony and truth to the couple. The third is the promise of children and the fourth symbolizes health and a lasting marriage.

When the big day arrives, it is wrong to think that friends of the couple will attend. Only the grooms’ direct relatives can accompany the wedding, which has everything very simple. For the groom’s parents, tea with two lotus seeds is served. At the altar, the couple pay homage to elements of nature and the god Tsao-Chün. The union is sealed with a bow from each.

However, the most important part is yet to come. The reception is considered one of the main points of the ceremony, since even a ceremonialist is hired. The wedding cake – usually large and with many layers – is cut. With their arms intertwined, the bride and groom offer each other a piece of the cake.

Thus, it is distributed, in that order, to the parents of the bride and groom and grandparents. The difference is that these dishes are brought to the mouth by the couple themselves, who hold the cake together. The classic toast is also present at the celebration, which greets the bride and groom. During this stage of the wedding, the bride gets to change clothes three times.

Japanese wedding

Filled with symbolism and tradition, Japanese wedding is very different from Brazilian ceremonies. To start with, there are two ways to get married in the eastern country. The first, called Omiai Kekkon, refers to arranged marriage – where suitors are chosen by family members or, oddly enough, marriage agencies.

The second way is Ren’ai Kekkon, the ‘for love’ wedding, which gained strength and escaped traditionality after the end of World War II. It is worth remembering that both ceremonies are not related to religious cults, which vary between a Shinto, Buddhist and Christian ritual.

This first, in fact, is the most common in Japan. In it, family and close friends of the couple appear in a Shinto time. At the time, the bride’s clothing is far from what is seen in the West: she wears a kimono called Shiromuku and hats called Wataboshi, used in the religious ceremony and Tsunokakushi, used in the wedding reception. In both Brazil and Japan, white is considered a symbol of purity in brides; and is present in hats, bags and shoes.

And the list of elements carried by the brides does not stop there. They carry, inside the wedding kimono (Shiromuku), a heart-shaped dagger, in addition to a wallet called hakoseko. Inside it, there is a hand mirror and / or a comb, as detailed in the Japan in Focus website. For the groom, the traditional is always a black kimono, the Hakama. For the female kimono, brides can use floral prints, birds, among others that symbolize fertility.

Still talking about the Shinto ceremony, the couple heads to the temple to the sound of flutes and drums. First of all, they are usually purified, in a ritual called San-San Kudo. For this, the bride and groom drink sake in three different cups – which symbolize Heaven, Earth and Man. The act represents the new family bond between him and the mutual respect between families. Even so, the exchange of alliances happens between the couple – with direct votes and everything. The groom, in turn, takes an oath and everyone stands up for the Consecration of Tamagushi – a sacred leafy branch in Shinto ceremonies.

An important detail is that there are no groomsmen or godmothers in Japanese weddings. At most, the partner chooses the best friend for the place of honor, or replaces him with a Nakoudo, a Matchmaker.

It is worth remembering that marriage is also linked to Japanese superstitions. For example, most ceremonies take place in the spring and fall. In addition, the month of November is disputed by couples, since the number 11 is considered lucky in the country.

As a gift for the couple, stay away from sharp objects such as knives and scissors. They mean a cut, that is, they can symbolize the separation of the two. Words related to court or separation should also not be mentioned throughout the marriage, as they can be bad luck. It is worth remembering that divorce is not as common in Japan as in Brazil and that, when it happens, it is possible to have a divorce party.